Monday, May 13, 2013
The conception of this anthology was inspired by my own grief journey. After the death of my daughter in 2003 from SIDS, I noticed is that there wasn't a book that addressed the many different interruptions of the joy of motherhood.
So, I decided to edit Joy, Interrupted: An Anthology on Motherhood and Loss. It includes tales of mothers whose joys had been interrupted, deferred or delayed. Women who had miscarriages; daughters who talked about the pains of being adopted; women struggling with the loss of identity while mothering; men and women who were taking care of their dying mothers.
I learned to see my experiences in a larger, more universal, context. Some of these universal themes addressed include: coping with the death of a child; relationships between mother and child (including adoption and estrangement): caring for disabled children: and having to mother one’s own mother because of an illness. In reading about other dimensions of loss, I saw new opportunities for coping, for making meaning out of pain, and for healing.
The anthology showed how motherhood and loss exists in the space between grief and joy. We remember and hope for the joyous aspects of mothering at the same time we mourn the loss. It is my hope that this anthology can allow others to move closer to joy. I hope this anthology can reveal how each loss reaffirms the many possibilities of motherhood, even when joy is interrupted.
I believe these voices open up our views about the space between joy and grief, and what the act of mothering can entail. I see this anthology as a prism reflecting a multiplicity of voices. Each voice meant something to me, and I anticipate that some of the pieces will mean something for others, as well.
This book is intense and isn't meant to be read cover to cover. I believe this book is one you put on your nightstand, and in your darkest hour you turn to it for processing your grief. I think we all need those moments to grieve openly, while still being able to function, and hopefully, feel joy once again.
The contributors demonstrate courage in baring their souls. They teach us how creativity can exist even in tragedy. They show us how even through our tears we can find some meaning in life. They share their stories after going through the fires of loss. They are proof that we can rise up out of the ashes of grief.
So, this book is ultimately about motherhood, loss, and healing. I believe it can do the same for others as it did for me, moving us closer to joy, even when it has been interrupted.
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