Showing posts with label self-confidence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-confidence. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Entice Me -- To a better way of living




A chick lit novel, surely you must be kidding? One of the hardest genres to sell to the masses to be is Fiction and then chick lit, the genre itself believed to be dying breed. But never for a moment did I doubt that chick lit would desert us. Why? Because I personally love a chick lit novel, portraying women in interesting situations and of course involving incredibly hot men that will spurs on our romantic heart’s to believe there are such fairy tale endings in real life.
So why write Entice Me? Entice Me has become a self-help book for me and many women who read it. To evoke thought about what direction you want to travel and not let a moment waste in chasing your dreams. Of course self-confidence, finances and relationships can all add obstacles and challenges. Entice Me is not short of these interesting turn of events and will not hesitate in delving in the bigger issues such as eating disorders, feminist issues in the work place and work/life balance. Please note as serious these issues, a chick lit wouldn’t be right without romance, seduction, friendships, travel and delicious looking men.
The main characters, Miranda, Grace and Louise all form friendships through their working careers sharing their personalities and outlooks on life throughout their journey’s. Miranda a workaholic faces a major life change when everything in her world falls apart. Louise working in a high powered position in an all male company discovers relationships can change in an instant. Grace is a free spirit who finds love in the most unusual circumstance. Then there is Sally, a jealous, manipulative, superficial woman who wants nothing more than to be the best in the recruitment business and will stop at nothing to win. This eventful, light read will have you hooked as you learn more about each character and their love interests that will take you around France, Spain and Australia.
Other books by Melanie Toye include, ‘Activities for Babies-when toys are not enough’, ‘Kids, write your own stories’ and ‘Annabelle’s Angels’. Children of all ages will love these books. Next in line to be released is Destiny Lane a fantasy romance novel for adults that will surely heighten your mind’s imagination as you read through a woman’s journey living in two world’s and what life purpose she needs to discover to return to living in one.
Melanie has been in a range of media promoting the need for all to chase their dreams especially in times of insecurity where job losses are becoming more common and finding work even more difficult. Taking time to really discover your true calling will be the ultimate in ensuring you live your life they way you always dreamed it would be. 
Melanie Toye

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Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Pillar of Strength


"Perhaps, rather than thinking I must make my morals, truth, and integrity match another's, I can determine what resonates with my own heart. When it does, I have the strength of a pillar."


There is nothing quite like standing in our own light, resonating with our heart. For me, it evokes a deep knowingness and peace. It brings me emotional strength.

The first step toward gaining emotional strength is to take action. We need to add to our performance appraisal a list of our morals, our truths, and our integrities. We need to do this work... it takes action.

It takes self-confidence and courage to list out these things, and after the preceding stages through which we have been, we are more equipped with these qualities.
Once we have listed out our morals, truths, and integrities, we sift through them to determine which resonate with our heart.

We know something resonates because of the deep feeling of peace and groundedness we have when we read that point on our list.

It's difficult, at least it was for me, to separate out others' influences while making my list. For example, during my 20 year marriage, I took on many of my husband's characteristics and truths. They were not who I was. I took them on to keep peace. I changed who I was to get along, and in the process, I lost myself and what I stood for, what I believed in. 


I found that once I knew my morals, strengths, and integrities, there would have been no need for arguing. I could quietly have stated them, relying on my emotional strength. By the time I learned to do this, however, I had been out of the marriage and sober for about 8 years.

I also found that by being strong in what I stand for, my self-confidence and self-respect increased tremendously. I feel good about myself, which leads me to feel good about you, which allows me to treat you with great kindness and respect. See how this works when we are feeling good about ourselves? It is of benefit to others, as well as ourselves.


You, too, can gain this level of feeling confidence, respect, and peace. Start by doing an evaluation of your morals, truths, and integrities. List out all that you currently believe, as well as how you would like to believe from here-on-in. Ask your Source for help in incorporating these points into your life. Ask for the courage to live them, to be strong with them in your being. Ask for the fear of standing in who you are to be removed. 


If you encounter resistance or ridicule, bullying or criticism from others, perhaps it is time to move away from those relationships, as they are not in your best interest. Try to hang out with people who pull you up, not put your down, those who applaud your emotional strength.


When you are responsible for yourself in this way, you have less need to drown the sorrow of your own betrayal with alcohol or drugs. You will experience a great deal of freedom and self-assurance about who you are. You will know a better feeling than you get with numbing. You will have emotional strength.

Carolyn CJ Jones

- Inspirational Speaker: "from sobriety to serenity..."
- Author and Photographer: "Opening the Gates of the Heart: A Journey of Healing"